If my relationship is my only source of happiness, I’ll end up sucking it dry, sucking the life out of it. We fall in love because we’re so excited about who that person is. If I lose who I am as an individual, if I become HER version of Walter,
He’s not actually my type, but he really loves me. This mindset usually ends up with the female wanting to “fix”, change, the male, so that he is more her type. Unless we have a life-changing epiphany, most of the time we don’t change much. In order to have a
“Is life not a hundred times too short for us to stifle ourselves?” German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, Nietzsche in American, wrote these words in the late 1800’s. Then, and now, life is way too short. If you want it, do it now. We will never know how long we will
“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” This is from the Teachings of don Juan, a Toltec shaman, which is a shamanic tradition from South America that goes back many thousands of years. The amount of energy that we put
“You are searching for the magic key that will unlock the door to the source of power; and yet you have the key in your own hands. And, you may make use of it the moment you learn to control your thoughts.” Inspirational writer Napoleon Hill wrote these words in
Chances are you will lose, if meeting your expectations is your priority. Focus instead on gratitude for what that person or situation is offering you. Then your heart stays open. Others will respond to you in positive ways, and you will be happy. Stick with gratitude.
Lovers love to be pleased, but ultimately end up bored, or even losing respect for the pleaser. If my only priority is pleasing her, chances are I will end up losing my individuality, and then I’ll have nothing left to contribute to the relationship besides pleasing her. In order to
Almost none of us ever got a lesson in how to have a love relationship! And most of our parents set really bad examples. Educate yourself!! Read books, watch videos, learn how to communicate and how to act. Or, make an appointment with me. I love to help.
The quality of my life is the quality of my relationships. All of them – significant others, friends, coworkers, clients, family. Life is relationships. We seem to define who we are by who loves us. And who’s responsible for making my relationships great? ME!!
Feeling lonely? Imagine holding 5-year-old you on your lap, look into the eyes of little you, feel the soul of little you, and hear and FEEL little you saying to adult you, “look how far we’ve come, look what we overcame, I’m proud of you, I love you.” You won’t